This main I had the suffer of gift able to speak through the husband of one of my irreversible clients. He was open, honest, introspective and also sincere. His mam is a good woman. He is a great man. And also they’re at the crossroads of make the efforts to figure out if they deserve to be what every other needs or if the time to speak to it quits.
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As they say, there are two sides to every story. That’s because every one of us – everyone – can only see and also experience the people through our own lens. Here’s what i mean:
Assume anyone is attract a pair that eye glasses and embedded in those glasses is every previous experience, every failure and also every lesson, every belief, every judgement, every fear and also insecurity, spoken and unspoken. Everything we see and also experience gets taken (and distorted) with that lens.
And because each among us only have actually this one lens, we assume that the way we’re seeing and interpreting a daunting situation is “correct.” us don’t understand exactly how our spouses could be see it differently. Except that ours spouse has actually his or her very own lens the is totally different than our own. Our spouse’s lens isn’t “wrong,” it’s simply different.
We’re all essentially walking approximately viewing and also experiencing the people through our own lens and assuming that our means of thinking is “correct,”…(which by the way, frequently times provides everyone else wrong…)
She thinks she’s right. And, guess: v what? She is.
He thinks he is right. Due to the fact that he is.
There are two political parties to every story and they’re both “right,” due to the fact that their judgement the what is “right” is based on each of their own lens’. Neither is wrong.
But they space different. And also therein lies the rub.
Let’s make This Personal
Now think about something you and also your spouse are disagreeing about…
How would certainly your situation change if they to be both right? …If what girlfriend both want in the connection was fully valid? because it is. We each – as adults – get to desire what we want.
How would the relationship change if friend both gave each other what the other was questioning for, rather than pushing versus it and trying to convince the other human being they shouldn’t desire that thing they want?
I shed my ability to judge something together right or wrong a long time ago, due to the fact that anything I would judge would just be an interpretation with my lens, not yours.
In the end, it comes down to:Not judging our partners together either best or wrong; it’s just a preference and it may differ from our own.Am i willing to let go of the must be best if it way it will save the relationship?
As castle say, there space two sides to every story – constantly has been, constantly will be. Because no two human being on the planet view the people through the same lens. And they’re both right.
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I expect this made feeling to you….
As always, sent out with lot love and light –
PS – I enjoyed my session with this male so much that i’m going to test a program just for our men…to aid make our relationship better…..stay tuned. I’m feeling inspired!
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